We were off to the races. The initial appointment is really a get to know you appointment. As much for you as for the doctor. I made Shawn go because I wanted to make sure he was comfortable as well. After all he had to be comfortable enough to make what we affectionately call a “donation” while there.
Right off the bat – Dr. Mesen doesn’t sugar coat anything. He gave us the stats and where we stood on the spectrum. They can tell you A LOT from a simple blood test, age and history. So we walked out feeling overwhelmed but armed with the information we needed to make the next move. Which for us was an IUI. The IUI didn’t work but by some miracle (and probably all the hormones I was on) we got pregnant the month after. Which ended in a miscarriage but we learned sooooo much from that. And so did the CFI team. So then we really knew what we needed to do which was IVF.
I want to focus on the Dr and his team for a minute. During one of the hardest things I have even been through they treated me with honesty and respect. I was at my lowest and super sensitive which still may be less sensitive than most but more than anything I appreciated their honesty and their quick approach to helping us through the miscarriage. I honestly thought that I would never be able to go back (all procedures happen in Winston-Salem) but I had to for the retrieval and the same anesthesiologist and nurse were there for both. It was comforting because I was like I am back! That didn’t break me. I am here to try again.
Dr. Y who is in the W-S office is very kind and super supportive. He is the one that does most of the procedures but monitoring will be done by Dr. Mesen in Charlotte. Honestly if you go out there and read reviews about Dr. Mesen you will see stuff like, cold, not bedside manor, hard. Guys and Gals – I am not sorry when I say this, I am glad Dr. Mesen was all of these things. I didn’t go to him to make a friend. I went to him with the most important investment of my life. And he took it seriously. If you need to feel warm – snug up with your partner. But if you want to feel empowered and confident – Dr. Mesen is your guy. He is a straight shooter – he is always going to tell you the truth even when it hurts – and he is going to do everything he can to help you get pregnant. I appreciate his laser focus and I am hoping he will make us another baby in 2021!